The biggest loser

by Marcelle on June 6, 2011

I joined the gym.
Just like that, way more than I wanted to spend and never sure if I’m on another whim, I’m in.

In this cult of the body we live it’s hard not to get carried along by the popular obsession with tight thighs and a tidy waist. It’s all about being driven, focussed, creating the life you want, being who you want to be. To summon up such drive feels like a violation to my Carmelite sensibilities so I have generally settled for gentler ways to move my body.

But now I’m in. Locked in and once I’ve paid for something I don’t like going back.

Toughing it out

I was only on the cross-trainer for two minutes before I felt a shaken inside. I could feel my heart racing and my thighs begin to hurt very quickly. My head got a bit spinny.

‘I haven’t had breakfast yet,’  I explained to the trainer wanting to hide my lack of toughness.

And that’s what it is – lack of toughness.

I’m not unfit so I know now what I was experiencing wasn’t just physical weakness. It was more like a deep and hidden fear of doing anything to hurt myself, push myself, move out of my comfort zone.

We’re not long out of Lent and during that time I could smell a distant and imperceptible scent of joy – the joy of freedom from all sense of preciousness and self-concern. My body still holds the imprint of all sorts of hesitations, retreats, petulance, complaints and cowering and wants to retreat all over again as these memories rise up to meet me as I offer it a challenge.

I think it’s time I shed the weight of all this apprehension and take this cautious body into some new and difficult places. I may even get back to the blogging!

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Be a first rate version of yourself

by Marcelle on February 5, 2011

“Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else” – Judy Garland

I don’t know if it’s wise taking quotes from famous people too seriously if you’re bent on a spiritual life. But sometimes I’m prodded into a more honest way of looking at myself with advice from the most worldly and superficial quarters.

It must have something to do with the daily struggle. The struggle to be with God. To be good. When we live through a world that is just so not into the godly.

It’s the children of the world that do often have the most sensible advice when it comes to dealing with the world they know so well.

A sincere heart

I’ve been meditating on sincerity today. Being who I say and believe myself to be without caution, hiding or hedging. You just don’t know what people will think when they pick up that you may not be as enthusiastic as they are about sport, politics, shopping, holidays, house renovations, job advancement, the latest TV shows. I get as obsessed with these things as much as the next person at various times but I have to admit a lot of the time my heart’s just not in it.

Can you see the problem?

If God really sets out to transform you, to set you apart, to be a chosen people. Well, doesn’t that make you just a little weird?

When I feel weird then I begin to wonder should I really be someone else? Should I disguise my weirdness just a little so it’s not too obvious?

In my heart I know the answers to these questions of course.

I may be weird to some, yes. But weird in a way that God loves me that way. And if I can fully accept and embrace my own odd self then I am just that more embracing and accepting of every other odd self I have the great joy and privilege to meet with.

If I don’t break this sense of security that comes from conforming then I will never be free. I will never be able to speak the truth without adornment and I will never know what it is to stand out by living differently to the way I am defined here.

Emerson noted that we can expect to be heckled occasionally

For nonconformity, the world whips you with its displeasure. And therefore a man must know how to estimate a sour face.

He did continue though with an encouraging observation:

but the sour faces of the multitude…have no deep cause, but put on and off as the wind blows and a newspaper directs.

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How to be happy

January 23, 2011

The Way of Perfection And now we journey into our second stage of reading in preparation for the centenary of the birth of St Teresa of Avila in 2015. I’ve started The Way of Perfection and straight away it seems a more direct treatise on prayer than Life. I don’t want to do a literary [...]

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My great message to humanity

December 10, 2010

There is a wonderful piece of absurdist theatre, a ‘tragic farce’ by Eugene Ionesco called the The Chairs. For 80 (sometimes excruciating) minutes the audience must watch an elderly couple do little else but set up chairs and greet invisible guests who have come to hear the Old Man’s message to the world. His great [...]

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The sweet taste of bitterness

November 20, 2010

It always astounds me how saints can seek out humiliation and suffering. It can sound a little sick to one unschooled in faith. I’ve often longed, not for the suffering (because I can be pampered and petulant), but just to be able to understand how someone could be so deeply in love that they welcome [...]

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Hiatus

November 14, 2010
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Canonisation of St Mary of the Cross

October 18, 2010

You are no longer aliens in a foreign land, but fellow-citizens with God’s people, members of God’s household. [Eph, 2:19] It’s a day of blessing, immense joy and blessing. Days when I wonder what the the world out there is doing now as they watch the ads on the other channels, sneer at Catholicism or [...]

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What do you do for a living?

October 14, 2010

It’s funny how a new translation or slightly different emphasis can trigger a whole new view of the world. I found a quote from St Thérèse saying how her occupation is love [Story of a Soul, XI]. That struck me. I didn’t even recognise that it was just a different translation of the oft quoted [...]

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Blogging to a big empty space

October 9, 2010

Its a strange experience writing on the internet. Words go out so open, so permanant. I was wandering what keeps me writing with this and it occured to me that part of it is that it keeps me in touch with a wider world when my inner life seems to take over. And then there [...]

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Determined determination (in case you need a pep talk)

October 4, 2010

To reach their goal prayerful souls need what St Teresa calls a ‘very determined determination’ to persevere until the very end. I was collecting a number of quotes from various places and now I can’t remember what I’ve copied and what I’ve written. But determination does that. Thoughts fly in, they fly out, spur you [...]

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